Once every few months the media buzzes with news of a recent celebrity death due to a drug overdose. Everyone wails, laments, cries, moans, blames, reminisces….and then forgets until the next one comes along.
Funny thing – the news of this last death – Philip Seymour Hoffman – undoubtedly a truly gifted actor, an academy award winner, who had been sober for over a decade until a relapse, who died alone of a heroin overdose…whose supposed dealers may or may not have been arrested – has been and is still overshadowed by images of Justin Bieber sitting on the top of his car after being released from jail or Miley Cyrus sticking out her tongue and shaking her ass, nearly naked….
No doubt some day we will wail, lament, cry, moan, blame and reminisce about them – though right now they both look like a far cry from Philip Seymour Hoffman, Kurt Cobain, Jimmy Hendrix, Whitney Houston, John Belushi, Chris Farley, Michael Jackson, River Phoenix, Heath Ledger, Janice Joplin, or the many others who have been lost to a combination of drugs, alcohol and mental disorders.
So why can’t they just quit?
They can’t quit.
They are desperate to quit.
They don’t want to quit.
They fear quitting like they fear death.
They fear continuing to use like they fear quitting.
No one else really wants them to quit.
Everyone wants them to quit.
People like them the way they are.
People hate them the way they are.
No one can make them quit.
They can’t quit.
Next time you see a story about a celebrity who “threw away” a life because “he wouldn’t quit”, “why wouldn’t he quit”….remember those in your life whom you have blamed. Remember those people die alone. Alone. Think of those in your life who you still blame, think of what it will be like to lose them if they don’t quit and know that “they can’t quit” by themselves.